Saturday, March 30, 2013

My Connections to Play

“Play builds the kind of free-and-easy, try-it-out, do-it-yourself character that our future needs.” ~ James L. Hymes Jr. (child development specialist, author)

This quote says it all for me. I think that play really does allow us the freedom to just test the world around us. It is how we test relationships with other people, how we see what happens if we don't follow the rules, and if we do follow the rules, and allows us to test our own potential in terms of finding our limits, whether it be in playing a game, or playing creatively alone or with others.

 
As a child I often played with  Barbie dolls. My favorite was the new "Twist N Turn" Barbie-so lifelike (pictured here)!   My sister and I had 4 Barbies to share. So we pretended to be sophisticated young women, going to work or on dates with our imaginary Ken doll, or sometimes with our brother's G. I. Joe. We imagined all kids of scenarios, only guessing what it would be like to be in those situations, using different accents when we spoke and pretending to be worldly like people we saw on TV.
My brothers and sisters were the people I played with most often when I was very young. They were all older than me, and usually I had to play what they wanted to. So as soon as I could ride a bike, that is what we did the most. We lived on an old farm, so there was a long dirt lane that led from the road to the house. We rode our bikes up and down that lane constantly. We would play games like "Cops and Robbers" on the bikes, chasing each other back and forth that lane for what seemed like hours. I also used to pretend my bike (very much like the one pictured here, except mine had a plastic "wicker" basket with flowers at the front) was a car and pretend to run errands like banking and grocery shopping, too. I could carry pretend groceries or stuffed animal "children" in the basket, too. 
  
“Play gives children a chance to practice what they are learning.” -Mr. Rogers

When I was young, we played outside almost all the time. So, again we had to be creative in terms of thinking of things to do. I grew up in the 60's, when Star Trek was on TV weekly. Again my 2 brothers were a great influence on me, and so I usually wanted to do what they were doing. Along the lane we rode our bikes on, there was a row of apple trees. Apple trees are great for climbing, with branches that go sideways sometimes, so you can climb easily and then sit on a branch. We used to climb one particular tree, which was, in our imaginations, the starship Enterprise from Star Trek. We each had a special branch to sit on, we took on a character, and we would re-enact the different episodes we had watched on TV! It wa so cool! Now I can say how much we learned while sitting in that tree, although I certainly never realized it at the time. We used our creative thinking processes to create a magical space, we used our memory to act out the TV shows, we socially chose roles and tried to emulate the characters from the show, and we also developed physically from having to climb the tree in the first place ! Who knew?

I think that play today is very different than it was all those years ago. Better in some ways, but not all good. I think children still play and learn in many of the same ways. Kids play on organized sports teams at earlier ages now, and I am not sure it is really necessary to start so young. Children don't seem to get any time for all that fun, creative play any more. We know that children spend many, many more sedentary hours inside their homes in front of a screen of some sort, playing games. Again, these may not all be bad, but many children just don't get enough physical activity now.

Play has had a very imortant role in my life. From those early days I have mentioned, I went on to play on organized teams-softball, volleyball and track and field. Being on those teams as a teenager gave me skills on which to focus, teammates as friends and goals to strive for. As captain of my high school volleyball team, I gained leadership skills and confidence in myself as a young person. All that playing, all along, helped me to learn so much as I have gone through my life, I can hardly express it here. And I still play as much as I am able, and I am as playful as ever in my everyday life. My hope is that today's children are able to be allowed to experience the  play they need to help them them grow and mature into sensible, productive adults. 


Sunday, March 17, 2013

RELATIONSHIP REFLECTION

Although I have many different relationships with many people, they all have a few things in common. The most important relationships I have are with my husband and children. I have known my husband for 33 years, and will  have been married to him for 25 years in June. needless to say we have experienced countless activities and emotions over the years, some difficult, some not! The most important factor in maintaining this relationship has been the process of learning to be open and honest. No matter what. You need to say what you need the other person to know. Positive or negative. Just say it. This applies to our children also. Just communicate. Listen. Respond. It is not always easy, but it works.
 I have a working relationship with the office administrator at my school. We are also friends. We have had to learn to be honest with each other, or things get convoluted. We have different "working styles", but we have been able to discuss this and respect each other's methods. Sometimes we just have to honestly sort things out. I really feel that this can be applied to any successful relationship, and that is how I work  and live. It works with staff, also. I think if we just give each other the opportunity to be heard, we can move forward.
I am sure this is a great way to develop a relationship with families, too. When I have a parent who is upset and needs to talk, I invite them to do just that. I listen to their views, and then we talk about what needs to happen next to make them feel better about leaving their child with us every day. Usually we come to terms, we keep in touch regarding whatever the situation is, and we move on, taking any action needed.
Obviously, I am more deeply committed to some people than others, so I suppose I put forth more effort in some relationships than others, but generally speaking I reap what I sow. There are relationships into which I put a great amount of effort, and from those relationships I gain great satisfaction.